Ten problems you should avoid debating with her
There are some "taboo" problems in love to take in discussion. Some matters estimate harmlessly but women are very sensitive with them. Therefore, gentlemen need avoid discussing with them about 10 things as follows:
1. Her fashion
From the bottom of her soul, most women feel that they have an aptitude for fashion, so they often consult about the way men dress. However, when men make comments about the way women dress, they rarely accept to modify, unless you make comments about other women but not her. This is a bitter experience but any men have.
If you make give a comment by mistake"I don't like the shoes model that you have just bought", please try to correct immediately, example: you can say: "However, this model is still suitable to the way you dress".
2. Her culinary skills
Not that any women have the skill of cooking fish in brine like your mother. However, don't make a comparison foolishly. In addition, don't speak scornfully of her culinary skill, although you must close your eyes to swallow "masterpieces" that she makes. The best thing is that you don't turn the culinary skill into a discussing problem. Please hope that "Experience is better than cleverness", you will be "familiar with eating" with the way she cooks one day, or her culinary skill will be better.
3. Her old lovers
Don't mention about or speak ill of her old lovers, although they tricked her in obedience. If you do so, you infringe upon her past and reproach her with the last mistakes. Please let those problems elapse and don't compare it with the present. If you mention about the old problems by mistake, please offer an apology to her straightly before neither of you dominate the controversy.
4. Be touchy about her sex
This is a delicate problem; it arises from the outdated conception" value men above women". The present era advocates "equality between men and women". Therefore, a woman can drive her darling if he has a drop too much in the birthday party of a close friend. In this case, if you keep on discussing about who drive, maybe your darling think that you disregard women
5. Her financial situation
You need remember that how she spends money is not your problem. Of course, the situation will change when entering the period of marriage. You should extremely avoid discuss about money if you don't want your goodwill to be misunderstood and this makes your love fall to pieces.
6. Her stature
Women are very sensitive about their stature, especially their weights and hairs. Therefore, with some questions dealing with the main points such as "Do the jeans make me fat?" She needn't a true answer; her need is your pacificatory statement. In love, sometimes we need tell a lie providing that those words are harmless. Gentlemen should use praises, instead of the scornful words.
7. Her family
For women, family is the steadiest support before they find a congenial companion to build a private home. Therefore, don't discuss about her family, although there are some bad members. You should remember that your love affair will come to build a private home of both but not her family.
8. Her private problems
Some private problems such as: menstruation or gynecological disease is her sensitive problem. Women don't frequently want to mention with their lovers about these problems, unless those men are doctors who can provide useful instructions. There are some secret problems of sex which women themselves don't also understand all, let alone you. Therefore, please avoid this subject.
9. Her friends
If there aren't any good things about her friends, the best thing is not to talk about them. As a whole, she doesn't like listening both good things and bad things about her friends. This a subject which need select to discuss, because if not, you will fall into a situation "throw a mouse but break down an valuable vase" , your love runs the risk of being harmed just because of her friends' problems.
10. Be careful of your advices
When you hear that she complains about a strict boss, you give some solutions for this problem. You have good thought but why she responds with an angry attitude. It turns out that she complains this because she merely speaks without other intentions. Her need is your sympathy, but not your advice. Please beware of improper advices. They will cause the useless quarrels between you and your darling.
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